Charlie Sheen faces a lawsuit from up to 700 lovers, according to the media. His crime: he failed to tell his sex partners that he was HIV-positive. Even his onscreen love Jenny McCarthy is disillusioned and insists he should have told her about his health status. The Hollywood playboy’s misadventures are a precautionary tale.

Safe dating costs money, but no expense should be spared when it comes to your health. Visiting your gynaecologist and having testing at least once a year can ensure early detection and prevent spreading of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

Place your health first in dating relationships by taking these steps.

Why Safe Dating Tip? Screen for Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)

Asian women are not taking enough precautions to protect again sexually transmitted diseases. Over 1 million people a day acquire an STD, according to the World Health Organization. Women are at high risk of getting many STDs, including genital herpes (HSv2) and the human papillomavirus (HPV). Once you have an STD, you are at a higher risk of being infected with HIV.

Asian students going to study in Western countries and Asian Americans, in general, are at a greater risk of being exposed to STDs. Studies have found a higher STD risk in Asian American women, in particular. In 2001, 13.5% of Asian American women had an STD versus 8.3% for White women.

The following chart shows the prevalence of sexually transmitted infections (STI) that are curable.

Estimated new cases of curable sexually transmitted diseases (gonorrhoea, chlamydia, syphilis and trichomoniasis) by WHO region, 2008


Without screening, detection is sometimes difficult. Most people with herpes, for example, are unaware that they have the virus. As always, abstinence is the best protection if you do not know your partner well. Fewer women are engaging in casual sex. Once in a relationship, more partners are going together for STD testing.

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Safe Dating Tip #1: Use Condoms

Condoms are not expensive but prices vary. A Durex condom can range from $13 – $24.80 SGD for a pack of 10. Producers are competing on various features such as using more expensive materials to create a more natural feeling and a comfortable condom. Even if you are taking birth control, using a condom is strongly recommended by the health community. Female condoms are an option to protect against disease and pregnancy.

Safe Dating Tip #2: Use Contraception Methods

Contraceptive effectiveness rates show that male condoms are the least effective protection against pregnancy. Birth control pills can cost between $30 – $50 a month. Female sterilisation costs around $1500 and can be partially reimbursed by medical insurance. Compare contraception methods and prices and choose the one that you will be the most comfortable with.

Safe Dating Tip #3 : Conduct a Preliminary Investigation

If you are serious about a love potential, have met him and are considering moving forward, you may want to consider having a private investigator check him out. Having an investigator follow your love interest around to find out if he is married or has five girlfriends on the side could cost you $50 to $100 an hour. Many cheaper online screening services are available starting at a fee as low as $20. Background checks can reveal:

  • Criminal, court and driving records
  • Property ownership and assets
  • Sex offender status
  • Credit history and bankruptcy filings
  • Education and military records

In addition, your investigator may be able to gather character references, past employment references, and even impressions from neighbours and former co-workers. Use a service that is familiar with the local scene and social media. Many investigators are busy uncovering adulterers after the Ashley Madison infidelity outing, which also involved thousands of married Asian men. The investigator could find your date on Ashley Madison or under a different name with his family on Facebook.

There is a downside to online dating if you do not take proper precautions. Every week a new woman appears in the media who have been bilked of lots of money by a seductive man on an online dating site.  Online dating apps are also being blamed for the faster spread of STDs. On Tinder, your next encounter may be only a few minutes and metres away. Online dating has significantly lowered the cost of meeting people. Consider taking some of your savings and investing it in pre-screening and make your dating encounters safe.

On Tinder, your next encounter may be only a few minutes and metres away. Online dating has significantly lowered the cost of meeting people. Consider taking some of your savings and investing it in pre-screening and make your dating encounters safe.

Read also: 10 Financial Questions You Should Ask Your Date

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Anna Haotanto is the Advisor (former CEO) of The New Savvy. She is currently the COO of ABZD Capital and the CMO of Gourmet Food Holdings, an investment firm focusing on opportunities in the global F&B industry. She is part of the founding committee of the Singapore FinTech Association and heads the Women In FinTech and Partnership Committee. Anna is the President of the Singapore Management University Women Alumni. Anna invests and sits on the board of a few startups. Anna is also part of the Singapore Chinese Chamber of Commerce & Industry Career Women’s Group executive committee. Anna’s story is featured on Millionaire Minds on Channel NewsAsia. She hosts TV shows and events, namely for Channel NewsAsia’s “The Millennial Investor” and “Challenge Tomorrow”, a FinTech documentary. Anna was awarded “Her Times Youth Award” at the Rising50 Women Empowerment Gala, organised by the Indonesian Embassy of Singapore. The award was presented by His Excellency Ngurah Swajaya. She was also awarded Founder of the Year for ASEAN Rice Bowl Startup Awards. She was also awarded the Women Empowerment Award by the Asian Business & Social Forum. Anna has been awarded LinkedIn Power Profiles for founders (2018, 2017), Tatler Gen T, The Peak’s Trailblazers under 40 and a nominee for the Women of The Future award by Aviva


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